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Insanity or just a bride to be?
Did you ever plan a wedding?
My wedding ticker on the web is telling me “31 days to go”. And yes, you got it, I have a wedding ticker. Is that still me?!?
I tried to look at myself and what I’m up to during these days and realized that I am one of these brides I was joking about before. If you would have asked me how to marry the clear answer was in the same second “just a tiny formal celebration and then off to honeymoon”. Where is this woman now?
I catch myself being more on google and wedding web pages than sleeping.
And I start to make these noises. You know, these bride noises when she’s looking at something soooo cute, like “Aaaaaah” and “Ooooooh”, which means “I need that too!”
My husband to be is already asking me almost daily if we are still within the budget. Me, the one who tried to save where possible, seeing myself thinking about wedding bubbles where the price is three times higher than for normal ones.
Is that phenomenon normal or is it just me going insane?
But at least I’m still able to judge properly and I don’t know how exactly but yes, I kept the budget (so far).
31 days and while the day is getting closer I seem to relax mainly. Mainly because my subconsciousness seems to have another sight. A few days ago I woke up and knew that I dreamt of an awful wedding but luckily I wasn’t able to recall details.
As nice and perfect as a wedding should be, it’s a bit scary too, isn’t it? It’s not that I have doubts, not at all. It’s more than sure that I will say “Yes, I do!”, I mean the whole day. Will it be like we want it to be? Do we have higher expectations than what’s possible? And how will I survive my speech? Yes, the bride’s speech. Which is unusual, I know, but I said I will do it and now I have to. No way back. Just because I did it more than often in my job doesn’t mean I will get a word out on my wedding day – this was my personal misjudging. Here we go, the bride will look like a zombie while crying and trying to finish a sentence in front of all. I have to rehearse before but it will never reflect the situation…lets hope I’m doing it at least with not too many tears and interruptions.
For the time being I’m just happy that almost everything is prepared and planned so I have around 20 days to calm down. How to do that best? Any tips – they are more than welcome.
Which wedding traditions do we want on our wedding day and what is completely not our style?
There are so many typical things and some are even “expected” by guests but what we decided is to make our day as comfortable for us as we want it.
So here’s a list of traditions we will/may have:
– the husband is not allowed to see the bridal gown before the wedding day! That’s for sure.
– the wedding kiss – maybe even double as my husband could kiss my forehead also as this is more convenient to him.
– something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.
– the husband has to be at the registry office or the place where the wedding will take place before the bride arrives. My dad will guide me into the room.
– a little girl which will bring the wedding bands to the couple
– flower petals, this is a maybe as we have to check first if it is allowed.
– cutting the wedding cake
– witnesses, even if they aren’t officially needed nowadays. They will be his uncle and my dad. Quite nice as we have a Libyan tradition inserted where both, bride and groom, have an older married man as witness.
– gifts for the bride’s parents, sisters and brothers from the groom and vice versa (means from the bride to the groom’s family)
– to feed each other as sign of the caring for each other. It can be milk, dates or the first piece of the wedding cake.
– carry the wife over the threshold.
– a morning giving
What we for sure don’t want:
– spending the night before the wedding apart.
– hen night
– kidnapping the bride
– a penny in the shoe, I will wear sandals
– wedding newspaper
– veil dance
The list may grow on on both sides, I have the feeling as if we are still at the beginning of our planning although many things are prepared or planned already.
If you have nice ideas please which aren’t listed here please share them – at least the bride can never get enough hints and tips on what’s possible…
Greetings from the bride to be, Miss Faith
I always said I’m not the typical woman when it comes to a wedding. Never dreamt of being a princess for one day. And then I detect myself in front of thousands of dresses to like some which fit totally in the picture of a princess.
Was that the flood of pictures or what was it? At least I’m glad that I realized it myself before doing the final choice. What could be worse than walking down the aisle in a dress which let everyone stare at me in disbelief – murmuring “where’s she, that couldn’t be her?” or “what drugs is she taking recently?”.
But even with a clear mind I still had the problem of ‘being a woman’. How should we choose one when there are so many nice styles?
I reduced it a bit by buying the shoes and the bag before the dress which is limiting the dress style itself a bit and fortunately NO princess dress is going along with my shoes!
So what to do now? Once bought its yours, and if alterations have been made its even more yours.
Here the realistic Miss Faith started to think – as realistic as a bride to be – I have to add this as brides are never 100% realistic.
We will celebrate in a garden which means long trains don’t make sense as well as dresses who are too expensive. Who wants the bride to stay in the house the whole day because she’s too scared that she may have grass ruining her dress?
Our wedding should be kind of laid-back, summer, garden, loved ones around us, a big summer barbecue with a chocolate fountain as dessert. Kids running around maybe with ice cream when it’s hot in August.
The realistic bride decided now to order a dress from China, the prices are more than OK, reviews of the dresses more than Ok and I don’t have to worry in the end if something is happening to my dress.
The only thing I have to worry about is how long it will take until its here and if its fitting properly.
And here comes the “being a woman” Miss Faith – to be on the safe side I just ordered two different dresses from two different sellers and the total price is more than good so I won’t have to worry about little chocolate hands passing by my dress or pieces of cake falling in my lap.
I like both styles so much that I’m not able right now to decide which one it will be in the end and I would love to post picture here to hear your opinions but the groom knows the blog and he is not allowed to get a clue of what I may wear!
Now it’s time to keep fingers crossed until they hopefully arrive and I can make the final decision.
The story will continue…
Keep the faith – you only win if you take a risk sometimes.
The Wedding Wish Jar
I read a few weeks ago about a nice idea for the wedding party.
The wedding wish jar, comes from the US, and is a glass where guests put little notes in on which they pin down wishes, tips, nice words for the newlyweds.
We are not connected to the US at all but I want this jar on my wedding as I like the idea.
It’s even nice to say we take it with us on honeymoon afterwards to read in peace what our guests wrote and recap like this the happiness from our wedding day.
That’s our wedding wish jar, which hopefully soon is filled with lots of notes.
Faithfully, the wedding Miss maniac bride Faith