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Our summer wedding in the garden – part V
My best friend came and told me embarrassed that she forgot to hand out the happy tears handkerchiefs but that she gave them now to all guests and that was exactly the right thing.
There were no tears during the ceremony but after we arrived we started again music – Van Morrison with these are the days – and I started my bridal speech.
Standing next to my husband in front of all of my family and friends I felt exited, emotional, happy – all at once. I had so much on my notes but ended up talking freely instead of reading what I wrote down. Welcoming all was the easiest part but when I started to talk to my parents and about his parents it was the moment when tears started to run and handkerchiefs were needed. My sister came quickly to give me a handkerchief as well and after all was said we’ve got applause from all.
My husband told me later that evening that it was one of the most appreciated things I did that day and that he never expected me to mention his parents as well as I unfortunately never met them.
But I knew how important they are for him and they are as well for me as they are the reason for him being alive and being now my husband.
Respect
Not easy but in the end I’m happy that I did it – many were congratulating and my husband was totally touched as he wasn’t aware of what I was saying.
I can imagine that. It’s good to dwell upon the lost ones. Specially when they are so important.
That’s why I did it – if it would have been the uncle of the cousin of the sister of the neighbour’s work colleague, no need to mention 😉
But his parents were really the ones I would have loved to meet as I know so many stories about them and they raised him in such a loving way.